Girls and stability
A Tea Time talk with a friend. Just found it interesting enough to share. It was abt gals in general. Afterall what else do guys discuss. This friend is actually running away from marriage. Iam like trying to convince him that one has to go through these troubles in life.
This day, he passed on a remark that I had to react to. His remark was "Girls are unstable". That remark could be interpreted in many ways. But in his context, u cant beleive in them. They tend to change. He carries this opinion against the current generation only. He doesnt sound a male chauvanist. Just that he has given too much of thought into it.
I knew there was a need for some change of opinion in his side. For one thing, I dont like generalisations. I could have given him specific examples of females who were venturing, who were highly stable in mind. But since his was a generalisation, I also wanted to react from a general perspective.
My point of contention was Gender differentiation is on 2 respects. One Physical and the other as per characteristics. At the Personality level, there is no male and female individually. It is not as distinguishable as the physical delineation.
Every person has a bit of male and female traits in themselves. And whichever one is at an higher percentage dominates. A male trait is mostly explorative and a female trait is mostly pretective. To be explorative, the masculine trait allows us to take risks. To be protective, the female trait avoids risks, ventures and in that way it has to adapt itself for the sake of protection.
Now, I speak of integrity, but for the sake of retaining my job, I might change myself. Then Iam unstable in mind, but stable in job. So I get protection. But when Iam ready to risk the job my masculine trait shines to the fore.
I said, it is not man or woman, it is with regard to personality. So if a woman is unstable, she lives up to her character. And she does the balancing act in a family if the guy is risk prone. And how does this answer him. More than anything else, I hope he would toss the coin and go ahead for a marriage when the time comes. Lets take the risk after all should be the way a guy goes about it. May be that is how all the guys have gone about this ordeal for so long.
This day, he passed on a remark that I had to react to. His remark was "Girls are unstable". That remark could be interpreted in many ways. But in his context, u cant beleive in them. They tend to change. He carries this opinion against the current generation only. He doesnt sound a male chauvanist. Just that he has given too much of thought into it.
I knew there was a need for some change of opinion in his side. For one thing, I dont like generalisations. I could have given him specific examples of females who were venturing, who were highly stable in mind. But since his was a generalisation, I also wanted to react from a general perspective.
My point of contention was Gender differentiation is on 2 respects. One Physical and the other as per characteristics. At the Personality level, there is no male and female individually. It is not as distinguishable as the physical delineation.
Every person has a bit of male and female traits in themselves. And whichever one is at an higher percentage dominates. A male trait is mostly explorative and a female trait is mostly pretective. To be explorative, the masculine trait allows us to take risks. To be protective, the female trait avoids risks, ventures and in that way it has to adapt itself for the sake of protection.
Now, I speak of integrity, but for the sake of retaining my job, I might change myself. Then Iam unstable in mind, but stable in job. So I get protection. But when Iam ready to risk the job my masculine trait shines to the fore.
I said, it is not man or woman, it is with regard to personality. So if a woman is unstable, she lives up to her character. And she does the balancing act in a family if the guy is risk prone. And how does this answer him. More than anything else, I hope he would toss the coin and go ahead for a marriage when the time comes. Lets take the risk after all should be the way a guy goes about it. May be that is how all the guys have gone about this ordeal for so long.
posted by Devanathan at 3:17 AM
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