Arranged in Heaven
Choose to live with a girl with whom you can talk at your old age and not one with whom you can romance at an young age is something I heard. May be choosing a life partner is one trick thats the toughest in the world. Ok Iam no way near this task right now. Just thought of it and getting goosebumps already.
But Is the choice in our hands really. Does the system here work that way. The problem with arranged marriages is you neither know whether the person is compatible with you for romance or is good to talk with. What can you know in the few minutes of talk. If at all after talking for a while you are not confident of getting along what can you do in our social structure. You cant go back on your promises.
Ofcourse promises can be broken even after marriage but that is not taken in the right sense in our world. So you might end up squandering both your young as well as old ages. Love marriages are a different ball game bcoz you might not understand problems of the future. It might be the right choice when you are young, but might end up on the wrong side when you are old. But how many of us are expected to find a love and get the love returned. Two sided love stories successfully turning into marriage are rare yaar.
But a life of togetherness is expected to change it all. You get to love a person because you have been with them and you just cant miss them. Its like looking for your newspaper in the morning. If you dont find it one day you feel lonely. The same with the life partner probably(for both guys and gals). This hope has kept alive our system of marriages with all its checks and balances. That is why we are yet to come to terms with the changing world of KANK or JOK.
What would I expect from a girl I marry. I would seek her to be confident, have a personality, an ego and a self and ofcourse good looks. Because these things will shape my kids. And what does she get in return. A person who cannot take care of himself, who does have a king size ego and an even bigger laziness. But she can be assured of no change after marriage. Can get only this much of an appearance. She can expect a person who will care for her but will never express the care in any proper ways.
But when every person expects the best, the law of averages is constantly in work to bring our expectations down to practical limits. Some girl with much expectations will be made to accept me and I will be made to accept that someone and the knot will be tied someday. After all this writing about the problems with arranged marriages I know if not for that system in place guys like me cannot find girls. Hence I hope the system accidentally finds the girl of my type and hand her out to me. But there are miles to go before all that happens.
But Is the choice in our hands really. Does the system here work that way. The problem with arranged marriages is you neither know whether the person is compatible with you for romance or is good to talk with. What can you know in the few minutes of talk. If at all after talking for a while you are not confident of getting along what can you do in our social structure. You cant go back on your promises.
Ofcourse promises can be broken even after marriage but that is not taken in the right sense in our world. So you might end up squandering both your young as well as old ages. Love marriages are a different ball game bcoz you might not understand problems of the future. It might be the right choice when you are young, but might end up on the wrong side when you are old. But how many of us are expected to find a love and get the love returned. Two sided love stories successfully turning into marriage are rare yaar.
But a life of togetherness is expected to change it all. You get to love a person because you have been with them and you just cant miss them. Its like looking for your newspaper in the morning. If you dont find it one day you feel lonely. The same with the life partner probably(for both guys and gals). This hope has kept alive our system of marriages with all its checks and balances. That is why we are yet to come to terms with the changing world of KANK or JOK.
What would I expect from a girl I marry. I would seek her to be confident, have a personality, an ego and a self and ofcourse good looks. Because these things will shape my kids. And what does she get in return. A person who cannot take care of himself, who does have a king size ego and an even bigger laziness. But she can be assured of no change after marriage. Can get only this much of an appearance. She can expect a person who will care for her but will never express the care in any proper ways.
But when every person expects the best, the law of averages is constantly in work to bring our expectations down to practical limits. Some girl with much expectations will be made to accept me and I will be made to accept that someone and the knot will be tied someday. After all this writing about the problems with arranged marriages I know if not for that system in place guys like me cannot find girls. Hence I hope the system accidentally finds the girl of my type and hand her out to me. But there are miles to go before all that happens.
posted by Devanathan at 11:28 AM
1 Comments:
This is Pasupathy da vennai...
This is nough proof that u r as usual vetti there. Writing blogs n scrappin' in orkut n doing stuff like dat. Anyways...this one shows ur desperation...thouh u ended with "miles to go" n stuff like dat. We know u man. :o)
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